The Heart of Summer
As we head into the heart of summer, I am reminded why I always feel so great, so different during these days. I am calmer, more joyful and steadier, no matter what is thrown my way.
Of course, long weekends and summer vacations are a big part of it, but at a more basic level it has to do with self-care. I am more active (bike riding, hiking swimming, walking, etc.); I eat all the wonderful fresh fruits and vegetables; I watch more sunsets and I slow down and connect with nature and my friends more frequently. In other words, I take better care of my body and soul.
I recently took a mini-break with a good friend for three days, which ended up feeling as though I had been away twice as long. I felt fully restored having nourished myself with yoga, long walks in nature-including forest bathing- and deep and meaningful conversations with my friend.
Although we were active, it felt less busy active (less doing doing mode) and slower active. We took our time in our activities. We did not rush and were spontaneous. We asked what do we feel like doing in the moment, rather than what we should do because we want to pack a lot of activity into our three days and feel productive - a typical New Yorker mindset.
Taking long, slow walks in nature, stopping to look at plants and animals reminded us of the interconnectedness among all living things in the natural world. Whether we realize it or not, human beings have a strong desire to bond with nature (biophilia), which is easy to forget in our urban dwellings.
Taking time to talk and laugh about our histories, hurdles and hopes helped to deepen our friendship and connection.
Being still with an afternoon nap, reading and daydreaming, allowed us to connect with ourselves.
Self-care is what we all need to help us stay steady in the rough waters of life. Summer is a good time to practice. I encourage you to observe what puts the wind in your sails, nourishing you, giving you joy, calm and delight. What activities make you smile? Try jotting your observations down or take a few photos to have as reminders. They might come in handy when you need a boost.